I'm Indonesian, born and raise, and I marry a white man.

From my personal experience (please don't generalize this), I found my Indonesian ex-boyfriends don't really like arguing. I tend to question everything,. You cannot say "You cannot act like this" or "You cannot do that" without some reasons behind it. Especially reason like, "because that's not what women supposed to do". I think my exes just don't get used to argue and maybe they grew up in households where their moms don't ask lots of questions.

When I met my husband, he accommodates me when I question or argue about literally everything. He gives me other perspective and say it when he doesn't know about something. And he literally finds my behavior attractive. That's why I said yes when he asked me to marry him.

I do notice that my social circle treats me differently when they found out I marry a white man. It's like somehow my relationship is more superior than same race relationship, which is stupid because I didn't see it that way. I think it's even more challenging. But it's a challenge that I'm willing to deal with because he is worth it.

Ow, and please don't put those Asian women stereotypes, like that docile attitude, to all of us. I feel like you're degrading me.